Dear Cichelli, I'm so sorry to have brought you to tears. That was not my intention. I was giving an honest opinion based on my life, feelings, and experience. And honestly, I posted that comment thinking it was so late no one would read it.
Here's the thing: I used to babysit to earn extra money so I could stay home with my first son. Here's what I learned. No matter how much I loved the little guys I watched, I didn't love them as much as my own son. And no matter how much they loved me, they loved their mom more. I watched every day as they had to say goodbye to their mom or dad and the little bit of light that went out of their face. And then the joy that came back into it when Mom came back in the door.
There was one little boy who cried for two solid hours the first few WEEKS after his mom left him. I would be trying EVERYTHING in my power to cheer him up; jumping up and down, making silly faces, bribing him with cookies, toys, videos...he only wanted his Mom. Not me, not anyone else. It broke my heart every single day.
Once, when I was telling MY mom about this, she said "It would be better if they lived in a shack and the mom stayed home with her kids." Regardless of how horrible that sounds to you, I have to say I agree. I personally don’t believe the trade-offs are worth the benefits. That is my deep gut feeling based on my feelings and experiences. You’re entitled to your opinion just like I’m entitled to mine. And frankly, I think my viewpoint is one worth defending.
And please, don’t be so quick to judge my character. One of the moms I babysat for was and still is a very good friend. I never agreed with her decision to work, but it was her decision to make and she’s still a great person, mom, and my friend. I don't apologize for my opinion, but I do apologize if I phrased it too bluntly and caused un-due hurt. I don't want to be "at war" with anyone.
Sincerely,
P.S. I really hate confrontation and I have a stomach ache from writing this, but if you want to discuss this with me more, feel free to e-mail: emilydeon@yahoo.com
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Dear Cichelli,
I'm so sorry to have brought you to tears. That was not my intention. I was giving an honest opinion based on my life, feelings, and experience. And honestly, I posted that comment thinking it was so late no one would read it.
Here's the thing: I used to babysit to earn extra money so I could stay home with my first son. Here's what I learned. No matter how much I loved the little guys I watched, I didn't love them as much as my own son. And no matter how much they loved me, they loved their mom more. I watched every day as they had to say goodbye to their mom or dad and the little bit of light that went out of their face. And then the joy that came back into it when Mom came back in the door.
There was one little boy who cried for two solid hours the first few WEEKS after his mom left him. I would be trying EVERYTHING in my power to cheer him up; jumping up and down, making silly faces, bribing him with cookies, toys, videos...he only wanted his Mom. Not me, not anyone else. It broke my heart every single day.
Once, when I was telling MY mom about this, she said "It would be better if they lived in a shack and the mom stayed home with her kids." Regardless of how horrible that sounds to you, I have to say I agree. I personally don’t believe the trade-offs are worth the benefits. That is my deep gut feeling based on my feelings and experiences. You’re entitled to your opinion just like I’m entitled to mine. And frankly, I think my viewpoint is one worth defending.
And please, don’t be so quick to judge my character. One of the moms I babysat for was and still is a very good friend. I never agreed with her decision to work, but it was her decision to make and she’s still a great person, mom, and my friend. I don't apologize for my opinion, but I do apologize if I phrased it too bluntly and caused un-due hurt. I don't want to be "at war" with anyone.
Sincerely,
P.S. I really hate confrontation and I have a stomach ache from writing this, but if you want to discuss this with me more, feel free to e-mail: emilydeon@yahoo.com
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